Parenting is difficult and is filled with many challenges and tasks. Protecting our kids is one of these tasks. However, there is a fine line between protecting versus overprotecting our kids. Overprotecting our kids can lead to a stunt in their independence, growth, and their ability to mature into secure and confident adults. A recent Slate article reported that, out of 6000 readers, today’s kids have less independence than their parents. Do modern parents coddle their kids? If so, how do we stop this from happening to our kids?
Avoid passing your fears onto your children: overprotecting our kids stems from good intentions, as we only wish the best for our kids. Our good intentions result from childhood traumas and deep fears that are hard to move on from. The best way to combat these fears and traumas is by facing them head-on and finding ways to channel them into other outlets. Do not be afraid of therapy, as this can be very helpful. Finally, your kids can avoid inheriting your traumas and fears once you have overcome your fears.
Spread their wings and let them fly: focus on strengthening their abilities and boosting their confidence so they feel capable to perform well on anything they decide to do. Once they feel competent and confident, grant them the freedom to make their own decisions and to form their own opinions. Keep an eye on them , but do not help them with the first challenge or task they face. Do not complete their homework assignments for them or answer all their problems. The best way to help your children is by teaching them to solve their problems by themselves.
Do not linger on or punish them over every failure they face: turn the page and let them grow. Your children will learn and grow from their mistakes, let them reach their goals by allowing them to learn of all aspects of life.
Parenting is no easy task, but know that the love they have for you will never disappear (even when they have grown up). Ultimately, the key to good parenting lies in protecting them, not overprotecting them.