There are so many things we want to do, we want our life to make a difference, we want it to be productive, happy, full and satisfying. But very often, at the same time that we have all of these dreams, we are filled with negative thoughts that prevent us from progressing and setting and accomplishing our goals. Your mind plays tricks on you and tells you that “you can’t”, “you aren’t able”, “doing that is frightening”, “what if you fail?”, “it’s impossible”, “what are people going to say if you dare to do it?”, “people are going to criticize you if it goes wrong”. Finally, we opt for the easiest option which is inaction, that attitude that results in little criticism and a lot of comfort, but also unhappiness and dissatisfaction.
So, what can we do about it?
Understand that what is behind all of these limitations is fear: Fear is a biological reaction and it isn’t bad to feel afraid, after all, it is a natural warning that sometimes can even save our lives. The problem arises when we are paralyzed by our fears. What’s really important is that we accept our fears, we deal with them and we act despite them; we must overcome them. The first step is to recognize our fears, find the root cause, and then act.
Open your mind to new ideas and perspectives: There are things that we cannot control no matter how much we want to, but what we can do is change our view of them. Mental limitations also arise when we have beliefs or opinions that are too closed. Have you ever considered the possibility that you aren’t right about something? Have you listened to the opinion of others with an open mind? If you learn to do this, you will open up a world of possibilities and new expectations, you can be more creative and improve your chance of success.
When you dare to do something you want, there are two options: Basically, it can go well or it can go badly. There are two possibilities to consider. If it goes well, it is wonderful, you feel more assured and confident, and your self-esteem increases. If it goes badly, you can think that it was a failure (and return to inaction and fear) or you can view it as an experience that you needed to live in order to learn something specific. If you view it from the second perspective, you will learn from your mistakes and learn the lessons that you need to try it again, now with more experience and wisdom.
Persist, persist, persist until you succeed: There is a famous quote from Winston Churchill that I like a lot: “Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm”. This was said by a man who was able to lead his people to victory in a world war. If he was able to do this in a much more complicated situation (in which there were loses on more than one occasion), don’t you think that we can do it in our daily lives? Yes, sometimes after a fall we have to take our time to pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, heal the wounds and move forward. There is no hurry, take the time you need, but always with the belief that you must start again and keep going.